05/18: Tacky Acrylic Nails
In a recent article in Cosmopolitan magazine, they did a feature on the Editor-in-Chief. There’s a movie coming out that centers around the Cosmo offices and the editor so they were doing a comparison of the real life editor vs. her movie version. In the article they did a quick “Q&A” with the real editor. They were just quick questions but the final question was “Something that freaks you out…” She answered, “tacky acrylic nails.” And thus my complex began.
Ya see, I have acrylic nails. Have had them for about 9 months now – the longest I’ve ever kept them on. I got them one day because I was bored and then I’ve kept them because I like how polished my hands look and it keeps me from biting my nails, which has always been a gross habit. Plus, one day a mother of the bride said – “I could tell from looking at you – your hair, your nails, so put together. I knew you were the right planner for us.” So maybe that vanity contributes to it as well!
That one answer “tacky acrylic nails” really made an impact on me. I was due for a “fill” on my nails the next day and I found myself stressing out about whether or not I should just have them taken off. If the editor of Cosmo thinks they’re tacky, do my clients think they’re tacky? What about vendors? Do I look fake or phony? Then I thought, what if I didn’t paint them and just did French? Is that less tacky? Or maybe I should stay away from dark colors and go more neutral? My brain was going crazy with self-doubt….all from a comment a total stranger said. And she didn’t even say it to me!
As always, this personal turmoil related back to an issue I deal with in regards to my clients. Do you know how many brides I’ve had that have a certain idea and then someone makes a rude comment or has an opinion about it..and then the bride starts talking themselves out of it and doubting themselves. That’s the thing about opinions – everyone has one and they don’t always align with ours. If we’re not careful – all those opinions cloud our judgment and make it hard to remember what we wanted in the first place.
Moms, mother-in-laws, sisters, bridesmaids, friends, co-workers…they’re all going to give you opinions on what you should or shouldn’t do for your wedding. Let them have their opinion and take it into consideration – but remember that it’s your wedding.
The only two people that have to be totally in love with your wedding? You and your fiancé. Of course you’d love for your parents to love and support it all and for your friends to be jealous of your lavish affair….but the day is about the two of you.
People will have their opinions – just don’t lose yourself while taking their thoughts into consideration.
And, for the record, I kept my nails…but I changed them to a French manicure. It was my compromise with the Cosmo editor.
Ya see, I have acrylic nails. Have had them for about 9 months now – the longest I’ve ever kept them on. I got them one day because I was bored and then I’ve kept them because I like how polished my hands look and it keeps me from biting my nails, which has always been a gross habit. Plus, one day a mother of the bride said – “I could tell from looking at you – your hair, your nails, so put together. I knew you were the right planner for us.” So maybe that vanity contributes to it as well!
That one answer “tacky acrylic nails” really made an impact on me. I was due for a “fill” on my nails the next day and I found myself stressing out about whether or not I should just have them taken off. If the editor of Cosmo thinks they’re tacky, do my clients think they’re tacky? What about vendors? Do I look fake or phony? Then I thought, what if I didn’t paint them and just did French? Is that less tacky? Or maybe I should stay away from dark colors and go more neutral? My brain was going crazy with self-doubt….all from a comment a total stranger said. And she didn’t even say it to me!
As always, this personal turmoil related back to an issue I deal with in regards to my clients. Do you know how many brides I’ve had that have a certain idea and then someone makes a rude comment or has an opinion about it..and then the bride starts talking themselves out of it and doubting themselves. That’s the thing about opinions – everyone has one and they don’t always align with ours. If we’re not careful – all those opinions cloud our judgment and make it hard to remember what we wanted in the first place.
Moms, mother-in-laws, sisters, bridesmaids, friends, co-workers…they’re all going to give you opinions on what you should or shouldn’t do for your wedding. Let them have their opinion and take it into consideration – but remember that it’s your wedding.
The only two people that have to be totally in love with your wedding? You and your fiancé. Of course you’d love for your parents to love and support it all and for your friends to be jealous of your lavish affair….but the day is about the two of you.
People will have their opinions – just don’t lose yourself while taking their thoughts into consideration.
And, for the record, I kept my nails…but I changed them to a French manicure. It was my compromise with the Cosmo editor.
